Breaking hiatus for a hot second, because goddamn.
Taking a break from Tumblr for a month starting tomorrow. Please don’t hesitate to reach out via G+ chat if you’ve got that contact info. :)
My Fourth involved bobbing in the river and strolling around town with K and S, then making boozy layered popsicles and having playful, vulnerable, thought-provoking conversation with S after K left for work.
God, it’s great having a metamour who’s already among your most trusted friends. You have the opportunity to learn from each others’ experiences and challenge each other in loving ways, because you have such a vested interest in the long-term well-being of all parties involved.
I don’t talk about polyamory on here often, probably because poly - and the challenges/opportunities/questions it presents - serves as a major undercurrent in all my in-person interactions. The ability to figure out what way I connect best with the people in my life, and to conceptualize that dynamic in a meaningful way apart from exclusivity, has been immensely liberating.
I have two long-distance partners, one local partner, one extended courtship/ambigu-ship (for lack of a better word), plus two amazing metamours with whom I actively maintain connections.
Some of these relationships are super-affectionate but not sexual. Some of them alternate between being sexual and nonsexual. Some of them involve mutually-acknowledged advanced-stage sexual tension and philosophical discussion, full stop. Some of them involve a date every week, whereas for others I might go 6 months without seeing them in person, and 3+ weeks without contact otherwise. All of them involve care and commitment, verbally expressed or implied through continued actions.
You might understand how this is a lot to tackle in writing without a specific prompt.
That said, if y’all ever have questions about my particular brand of poly, please don’t hesitate to ask. I help run discussion groups, play parties, and potlucks for my local-area poly group (with 30-50 people attending each event!) so I’m pretty used to talking about this stuff in a specific sense.
So yeah! Ask away, if you so choose. I have anon enabled, and I don’t know how to use an IP tracker at this point, so if you’re nervous… don’t be. :)
To start off Birth Control Appreciation Day, I decided to make an informative masterpost on contraceptives! I hope this helps anyone who may want more information on their birth control or someone trying to decide what kind of birth control is best for themselves! Happy (birth control) hunting! - PaigeDIFFERENT TYPES OF BIRTH CONTROL:
- Birth Control Pills - [x] [x]
- Mini Pill (Progesterone-only Pill) - [x]
- The Patch (Ortho Evra) - [x] [x]
- The Shot (Depo-Provera) - [x] [x]
- Birth Control Sponge - [x] [x]
- Vaginal Ring (Nuva Ring) - [x] [x]
- Spermicide - [x] [x]
- Implant (Implanon and Nexplanon) - [x] [x]
- IUDs (Mirena, Skyla, and ParaGard) - [x] [x]
- Condoms (Male and Female) - [x]
- Withdrawal (Pullout Method) - [x] [x]
- Diaphragm - [x] [x]
- Breastfeeding - [x]
- Cervical Cap - [x] [x]
- Sterilization (Male and Female) - [x]
- Abstinence - [x] [x]
- Fertility Awareness-Based Methods (FAMs) - [x] [x]COMMON QUESTIONS ABOUT BIRTH CONTROL:
- Do certain medications make my birth control less effective?
- Can I delay or eliminate my period with my birth control?
- Will my pregnancy tests come out with an accurate result while I’m on birth control?
- Can I use several birth control pills at once in replace of an emergency contraceptive?
- Does birth control cause weight gain?
- What should I do if I miss a pill?
- What should I do if the condom breaks or slips off inside of me?
- If I’m on the ring or the patch and I forget to replace it on the right day, do I need to use backup?
- I’ve heard that the birth control ring can pop out. What should I do if this happens?
- Can birth control increase my risk of getting cancer?
- Can you change your mind after having a tubal ligation or vasectomy?
- Is it normal to spot or bleed in between periods while on birth control?
- Does certain hormonal birth controls affect my blood pressure?
- Can being overweight affect my birth control’s effectiveness?
- Can certain birth controls lower my libido?EMERGENCY CONTRACEPTIVES:
- Types of EC: Plan B / Ella / ParaGard IUD - [x] [x]
- What are emergency contraceptives?
- How do they work?
- How well does it work?
- What are the side effects?
- When should I take an emergency contraceptive?
- Are emergency contraceptives less effective the heavier you are?
- If I am under the age of 18 in the US, can I buy emergency contraceptives without my parent’s knowledge or consent?
- If I take an emergency contraceptive today, am I covered if I have unprotected sex tomorrow?
- Will taking emergency contraceptives too many times affect my fertility?
- To find more questions and answers about emergency contraceptives, you can go here.
- Información anticonceptivos de emergencia es disponible en Español, aquí.OPTIONS FOR PEOPLE WITH ALLERGIES AND/OR CERTAIN
- Condoms for people with latex allergies.
- Condoms for vegans. [x] [x] [x]
- Other vegan contraceptive options.
- Different types of birth control without estrogen.
- Contraceptives without any hormones.
- Birth control methods that are useful to people with religious concerns. [x] [x]OTHER BENEFITS OF TAKING BIRTH CONTROL:
- Taking oral contraceptives can help lower the risk of endometrial and ovarian cancer.
- Using birth control helps treat acne.
- Birth control can help treat the pain caused by Endomitriosis.
- Contraceptives offer relief to people with Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS).
- Anemia can be avoided/treated by using birth control.
- Irregular periods can become more regulated by using birth control.
- The pill can lead to fewer ectopic pregnancies.MYTHS ABOUT BIRTH CONTROL (All the myths below are dispelled
through the links given):
- Emergency contraceptives and birth control pills cause abortions.
- Free contraceptives and/or condoms makes people participate in risky sexual behavior.
- The pill makes you gain a lot of weight.
- Douching after sex prevents pregnancy.
- You have to start your birth control on a Sunday.
- Taking the pill for a long time can make you infertile.
- Hormonal contraceptives protect you from contracting STIs.
- You don’t need to be on birth control while breastfeeding.
- I won’t get pregnant my first time having sex.
- The Pill is effective immediately after you take it.
- I won’t get pregnant if I shower or pee after sex.
- My body needs a rest from birth control at least once a year.
- Emergency contraceptives are affected by alcohol.
K, left. P, right. Little sketches from last night, mostly from memory. (Y’all who know K in-person know I’m not kidding about that jawline.)
So there’s this girl who knows my friends, but who I’ve never met myself. Let’s call her Leah. What I know about her: She used to be active in the local kink scene, but disappeared a few years back. She hoops and spins fire, and she’s the kind of jaw-droppingly attractive that prompts low, unintelligible noises and a peculiar ache in the sternum. One of my partners (K) knows her, and for what it’s worth, he thinks she’s gorgeous too. We’ve… discussed this.
…Leah showed up at a local meetup tonight, just after I left.
K (9:46 PM) Leah is here :O
K (9:56 PM) She’s pregnant
K (10:06 PM) I’m talking you up
Me (11:02 PM) Bahaha what a juxtaposition that is…
Me (11:03 PM) And thank… you? (Glad to hear you’re talking me up! Amused she’s pregnant.)
K (11:05 PM) She still looks good
K (11:05 PM) No one is pregnant forever
OH my god.
Meet K, folks.
On a happier note, I got to see Cascade hops up close and personal last weekend! If you can lay your hands on Blue Mountain’s Evan Altmighty, it’s pretty tasty.
And I just now got told by a waitress to “Stop workin’ so hard and eatchyer breakfast, honey.”
Sometimes I love the South. :)
What my recent bout of medical issues would have cost me on last year’s insurance plan (without medication as a factor): $100
What it cost me this year: $409.04
And I still have over a thousand dollars to go before I meet my in-network deductible, at which time my insurance starts helping with actual costs-of-service.
This is employer-subsidized group insurance. I had two choices… this, or a plan that offered absolutely no out-of-network coverage. (No out-of-network deductible or plan maximum. None.) Read: If I were in a car wreck and the ambulance took me to the wrong hospital, I would be responsible for the full cost of services there.
This is… yeah. Immensely frustrating.
Coloring page I made for my friend E… a collared, pigtailed mermaid with spiral shells holding her pigtails in place and commensal buddies on her tail. :) Everything’s customizable, from her hair and eyebrows to her scales, tail patterns, and… accessories. :)
So my soul went AWOL last night…
First-ever Gibson Tuck. :)
This is roughly the same view as in the previous photo, just 1000 feet (in elevation) up the mountain… But it seems that SOMEBODY forgot to turn the projector on.
These were taken at 10:30 in the morning. It had been sunny all morning… in fact, it was sunny another thousand feet up the mountain! (Which was when we’d originally decided to pull over at the next scenic view.)
All in all, the rapid transitions provided a neat experience. :)
It’s a little hard to distinguish them from the sky sometimes, but here’s a little snapshot of the Blue Ridge Mountains for you. On a clearer day, it’s much easier to see how they got their name.. But this photo gives a better hint as to why so many people of English and Scottish origins settled/stuck around the region. It looked, felt, and farmed like home.
I love this little froggy. He was my grandmother’s. :)